I used to wear armor.
As a Fat Girl, I’m not “socially acceptable”. I don’t fit in to what society tells us “women” should look like, just because of my size….. my ass that’s big but in a fat way, not a Nicki Minaj way and my fat stomach rolls and my double chin. This alone makes me very ugly and even unlikeable in the eyes of some.
So I used to try to fool people. I thought I had to sparkle and be as visually perfect as I could possibly be, wear fabulous yet concealing clothes all in an effort to distract them from the fact that I’m
With my armor, I’d give them a chance to see if they liked me, my personality. I thought that if they didn’t have to judge my “before” status of “What Not To Wear”, there was a better chance they’d like me. They still might not, and that’s okay. I’m not super easy to like. I’m awkward and I stare in inappropriate places because eye contact, um, no. My sense of humor is a bit off.
What did my armor look like? I owned modern girdles galore. Spanx and all manner of stretchy uncomfortable things. I made sure my tops concealed my gut and distracted with cleavage. I never left the house without half a face of makeup, and I never went “out” or to work without a full face that would take 30 minutes, and hair that looked nice. I tried to make myself smaller in public. I spent enough at Sephora to become a VIB for two years. Not in makeup because I love playing with it, but lotions and potions and tools to cover up this, fix that, etc.
These days, I will often leave the house in stretchy exercise pants and a baggy tshirt, hair that should have been washed yesterday thrown up in a ponytail and maybe if I’m feeling super self-conscious about the zits I couldn’t leave alone, some minimal powder foundation and maybe a swipe of mascara. This is common for me. I still make “effort” when it’s appropriate to do so, but the grocery store? Fuck it.
If YOU just see someone one crazy accessory shy of being worthy of the People Of Walmart page? That’s your bag, and I won’t mourn the chance at being your “friend”. I’m the same me, no matter if I sparkle and distract or I look like I skipped a shower this morning.
If you think a blog is “popular” and are afraid to message them because of that, just remember that most likely right that moment that blogger is in sweatpants, eating mac and cheese, and marathoning an entire season of a TV show on Netflix.
Your message would probably be one of the highlights of their day.
This describes me pretty well!
Seriously guys, don’t be shy.
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Q: The we vibe tango isn't powerful enough for me and I feel like there's something wrong with me
First, there’s nothing wrong with you. Some people just require more, or different.
Second, I’d make sure you don’t have a defective Tango. Once or twice I’ve had someone tell me that it felt weak, and it turned out theirs was defective. It’s not the best “test” but take a look at the water displacement test video I did as part of the Jimmyjane Form 4 review, make sure your Tango is just as powerful.
If it is, then consider getting a wand. They’re much more intense; I happen to not like the type of vibration that the Magic Wand and PalmPower put out, but they definitely are intense. I prefer the deep vibrations of the Lelo Smart Wand Large. Are you combining the clitoral vibration with g-spot play? That can make everything feel more intense, too.
Q: They had ones by Durex, something called Lifestyle(?) and Body Inovations, Vibe Me, and Duotone. Honestly I haven't even heard of all but one of the brands!
And this was in a US store? I’ve not seen these, I’ll have to look around.
Q: Have you ever thought about reviewing the brands/items they sell in store at places like Walgreens or Rite Aid? (The safe ones of course) For ladies who don't have any sex boutiques around but haven't got the money for something nice online?
The only ones I know of are the Trojan vibes. Is there another brand you’re thinking of too? What’s the price range on them?