Queer sex blogger (see: dangerouslilly.com), creator and former editor of e[lust].
What you'll find here: Things that get me off. Things that make me think. Maybe even more of me.

It will soon be EXPERIMENT TIME! I have some special tests in store for these gross nasties. And yes, the pink one on the left smells exactly how you’d expect. I haven’t cracked open the one on the right yet.

It will soon be EXPERIMENT TIME! I have some special tests in store for these gross nasties. And yes, the pink one on the left smells exactly how you’d expect. I haven’t cracked open the one on the right yet.


Hey internet,

It’s been a while and for that I apologize. I am writing you today to chat about what the heck is going on with the jar of melty toys. So this is where we are at:

We sent an order identical to the contents of the jar to Expert Chemical Analysis to be deformulated. When our science friends at ECA got back to us, we were shocked to find that according to their results, all of these toys are phthalate free.

My reaction to this was: “WHAAAAAAATTTT?!”

This whole time we were hammering the toys for probably containing phthalates, and it turns out they’re all phthalate free. This is a plot twist worthy of M. Night Shyamalan.

I can’t say I really know what’s happening in the jar, because I’m not a scientist. I can vouch for the fact that this jar is significantly less gooey than our previous “Toxic Toy” jars, which did contain phthalates according to ECA. There’s less melting going on.  BUT there is still a fair amount of damage to many of the toys.

Seeing how there is still some really gross melting action going on in the jar, I would say that most/all of the toys are indeed porous. A toy with pores is not the best thing to be putting inside someone’s “entertainment center.” This is especially true if these toys with pores have been in someone else’s bathing suit area. These pores like to hold germs, bacteria and other microorganisms and can upset a body’s natural balance. Judging from the incredible melting action of some of the jar inhabitants, I would wager that all is not wonderful in these toys. So attached are pictures of the jar and a record of their chemical components that we received from ECA.

There is something to be said about the fact that these toys are phthalate free. This means that there is some real change taking place in the adult industry. About a year ago, Dildology deformulated the James Deen dildo using ECA labs and found that is was full of phthalates. (You can check those results out here: http://wiki.dildology.org/view/James_Deen.

We’re very curious about the different results of two tests on, presumably, the same product. We plan to have further testing done, and we’ll keep everyone updated about those future results.

Lots of questions, many of which don’t have readily available answers. Were the materials in the James Deen dildo upgraded since Dildology’s initial test? Why the heck do some manufacturers insist on labeling things as silicon when they suuuuper aren’t?  And what information is out there about the potential health risks of the plasticizing chemicals in these toys? 

We’re heartened to see that phthalates are perhaps becoming less common than they were ten years ago. How else can we encourage change in the industry, especially toward more non-porous toys?

I am curious as to your thoughts about this process. Let us know what you think.

I am, by no means, an expert but from all the research and testing I’ve done on my own the best I can come up with for why these toys still melt is this: They’re softened with mineral oil, primarily, if it’s not phthalates. They’re also highly unstable by their very nature - “toxic” or not, they’re going to break down. And like attracts like. So when one begins to “sweat” and it’s touching another one, it’s going to set off a chain reaction.  The mineral oil oozing from the pores of one touches another and draws out the mineral oil from it. And when the material loses it’s mineral oil, it’s like a vegetable being dehydrated with salt….it changes shape, it sweats more, and I think kinda…deflates, sort of. That’s the best way I can describe it. Having all of them in a jar is a snowball effect. Or in your drawer. Or in your shoebox. Are they toxic? Not traditionally speaking, no.  Do I still consider them unsafe? Yes. I don’t consider porous toys to be safe because it’s too easy for something to grow and incubate in the pores….deeper than the surface you can clean. And when it breaks down (and it will) the sweating of the mineral oil will bring who-knows-what to the surface. And I am not convinced that condoms help. Most people use latex condoms which are susceptible to mineral oil. 

An Open Letter to Sam Pepper


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I used to wear armor.

As a Fat Girl, I’m not “socially acceptable”. I don’t fit in to what society tells us “women” should look like, just because of my size….. my ass that’s big but in a fat way, not a Nicki Minaj way and my fat stomach rolls and my double chin. This alone makes me very ugly and even unlikeable in the eyes of some.

So I used to try to fool people. I thought I had to sparkle and be as visually perfect as I could possibly be, wear fabulous yet concealing clothes all in an effort to distract them from the fact that I’m


With my armor, I’d give them a chance to see if they liked me, my personality. I thought that if they didn’t have to judge my “before” status of “What Not To Wear”, there was a better chance they’d like me. They still might not, and that’s okay. I’m not super easy to like. I’m awkward and I stare in inappropriate places because eye contact, um, no. My sense of humor is a bit off.

What did my armor look like? I owned modern girdles galore. Spanx and all manner of stretchy uncomfortable things. I made sure my tops concealed my gut and distracted with cleavage. I never left the house without half a face of makeup, and I never went “out” or to work without a full face that would take 30 minutes, and hair that looked nice. I tried to make myself smaller in public. I spent enough at Sephora to become a VIB for two years. Not in makeup because I love playing with it, but lotions and potions and tools to cover up this, fix that, etc.

These days, I will often leave the house in stretchy exercise pants and a baggy tshirt, hair that should have been washed yesterday thrown up in a ponytail and maybe if I’m feeling super self-conscious about the zits I couldn’t leave alone, some minimal powder foundation and maybe a swipe of mascara. This is common for me. I still make “effort” when it’s appropriate to do so, but the grocery store? Fuck it.

If YOU just see someone one crazy accessory shy of being worthy of the People Of Walmart page? That’s your bag, and I won’t mourn the chance at being your “friend”. I’m the same me, no matter if I sparkle and distract or I look like I skipped a shower this morning.


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If you think a blog is “popular” and are afraid to message them because of that, just remember that most likely right that moment that blogger is in sweatpants, eating mac and cheese, and marathoning an entire season of a TV show on Netflix.

Your message would probably be one of the highlights of their day.

This describes me pretty well!

Seriously guys, don’t be shy.

True story.

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